Cross body Bag

 

I have recently got a mini obsession with crossbody bags. I blame it all on those youtube luxury handbag bloggers. Financially, we are worlds apart, if I am going to spend a few thousand dollars it is going to be for a vacation, new furniture or appliances. Not to mention I am spending money on tuition for not only myself but my son who is graduating high school in just a few days. Hey, we all make our own choices about how we spend our money and if it is luxury handbags who is going to complain? Not me, I am living the experience through youtube.

Nevertheless, I am finding myself drawn to the handbag section in stores much more frequently. I have always been a one bag kind of girl until either I have got bored with it or it looks pretty bad and needs replacement. But apparently there is this whole world of changing purses like you change your clothes. Who knew?

I mean how is this possible? I have always been one of those people with their life in their purse, you cannot  just take your life and move it to a new purse with every changing outfit. But apparently there is a way ( upcoming blog post).

Any WHO, I am off on a slight tangit cause what I really wanted to share was the HANDBAG I got. This was an unexpected purchase. Not that I had not been looking for one. I knew I wanted pink and it had to be a cross body with a chain strap. TA DA! This little cutie showed up from the back room of our Coach store. AND get this… you “wear” a bag, like a pair of shoes ( learned that on youtube).

Let me introduce……Coach Glitter Rose Bowery Crossbody 

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Here I am “wearing” my first  bag. So pretty.  Skirt American Eagle and Jean Jacket Ricki’s

My two current fav youtube bloggers

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU0k21RR-k7Zxil6KMs5nsw

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOLb6C8Pr6lzqRilvuEzKGA

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Graduation Milestone

This Spring I have both jr. and senior proms and graduations. I love a good party, more so I enjoy planning a good party.  I like exploring neat ideas and mostly I get pleasure when my guests have a great experience.  This party was an outdoor picnic theme. We served pulled pork sandwiches with coleslaw and kettle chips.  I kept everything very simple and the feedback from guest the next day was very positive.

Enjoy the photo party and easy ideas!

 

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The last few parties I have planned or hosted it has been all about the helium balloons.They are a quick, fun and easy way to decorate. For this outdoor party these large number balloons added to the graduation theme.

 

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This simple balloon bouquet was just the right touch.

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Very simple self serve popcorn station.

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Another easy self serve idea.

 

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For special events I like to go one step further with the cake. This is a work of art.

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You can use mason jars for so many things, such a simple and easy idea.

 

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A great way to end a wonderful evening.

Boy Gotta Kiss the Frogs Too.

I thought it may come at some point, I mean no child is perfect, although I always feel my children are.  I wasn’t sure what form it would come in. The greatest fear was that it would be drugs. I had a plan for that. I would re mortgage my house and get them in the best treatment program ever. I wondered what would happen if that didn’t take and funds ran out. I knew then I would have to let them go and hope they returned alive and not broken beyond repair. That would hurt, it would be devastating.

I thought it may come in the form of just simply moving away to college or a job and that may happen yet. He is young.  I would miss them, it would be difficult.

I thought it would come in the form of a girl. Actually, I was sure it would be a girl. When you are the most important female in their life for the first 18 years and along comes a girl, any girl, there is going to be trouble.

Now, if, she is the perfect girl, that I love and he does too and of course she loves me, then problem diverted. But just like us ladies we are going to kiss a lot of frogs before we find the prince.

The problem is boys are going to kiss the girls and put their moms on the back burner while doing so. And as a Mom you are going to see all the wrong frogs for your son and there is nothing you can do about it. But yet, what you do is get angry with your son.

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You see things they can’t and you try to communicate it to them. You get angry because what feels like all of the sudden their priorities are all messed up. They say things to you that you are sure are the words of the “girlfriend”. It all comes to a head and you realize you have lost, you have lost. You have lost influence over their lives. Okay, maybe, let me try to call it what you are thinking, you have lost control. I can’t just tell him what to do and he will do it. He use to be so compliant. Now, he fights me, it feels like at every turn, every direction. AND NOW he is OLD ENOUGH TO ACTUALLY CALL ME OUT! WTF!

You invest every cell of your being into a child ( your children) and you love them so much. And now you are so angry with their choices and decisions and at the same time you are trying to protect them from making mistakes, emotional ones, educational ones, financial ones. And you are just left feeling hurt as they get in the car that you bought them to spend Father’s Day with another family.

You want to say “I gave up my life for you, I live for you. Every decision I ever made, I thought about your best interest” AND now I am the mean Mom, the not understanding Mom, the Mom who doesn’t get it, the Mom that rides your ass, the Mom who speaks with attitude. “ Do you hear yourself?”, he says to me “This is the reason I don’t want to be here”. <heart stab, stab, stab> My son doesn’t want to be with me. It hurts. It fucking hurts.

You Want to Take a Bath? Make It In Sunscreen.

We know from  research that daily use of sunscreen on the face, neck, and chest area is the number one way to prevent premature aging.  If that is not enough to motivate you maybe the rates of skin cancer will. Melanoma is no joking matter.

I get it, finding that perfect face and body sunscreen is not an easy task and can get rather pricey if you are always on the hunt like myself. But a rather inexpensive $10.00 bottle of possible life saving lotion is more than worth it.

What you do to your skin today will impact your skin and appearance in 2, 5, 10, 15, 20, 50 years from now. I see it as two options embrace the white or use a good self tanner ( there are good ones) but cover up and limited time to direct, prolong sun exposure.

Now, I am going to admit it wasn’t until I started putting sunscreen on my babies, about 18 years ago, that I decided to start using some myself and gradually I used it more often and more of it, on more of my body. Now, I am a faithful user.

The hypochondriac tendencies in me have some useful qualities at times. I use a sunscreen with at least an SPF of 25 everyday either in a moisturizer that contains sunscreen or a foundation that contains sunscreen.

I use a moisturizer with sunscreen on my face, neck and chest and else where. Here are some parts you may not think about: don’t forget your bare arms, your feet, behind your neck and the small back area that is often exposed in t-shirts, tanks and any top that doesn’t come up to your chin. Those areas get a lot of sun exposure during the run of regular day that we  often don’t think about. Your not just getting sun at the beach.

Now let’s take it a step further. I love the beach and the sun, so don’t think all this covering up I am going to be talking about is easy for me because it is not. I have started wearing hats not just to the beach but every time I am going be outside for more than 15 minutes at a time. Also I started using an umbrella so I am not in direct sunlight for prolong periods of time. Shade is becoming my friend. And yes, at the beach I limited my time in the sun. If I am going to be in the water for more than 10 minutes I wear a t-shirt. I wear a cover up on the beach. This has nothing to do with my not liking myself in a bathing suit. Now, I do allow myself some sun. I just try to be very mindful of it.

I am not a medical professional ( at all!!) however, since you are not getting as much vitamin D with all that sunscreen on, taking a vitamin D supplement is something you may want to discuss with your doctor or naturopath. Many people are vitamin D deficient and being so can have an impact on your overall health and well being and may increase your risk for some types of cancer.

Now that you have been lectured for the day.. get outside! 

Please let me know if you would like to me to review some of the products I have used that contain an SPF and how I rate sunscreens that I have tried.

 

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This is a basic t from American Eagle, see how much of her skin is exposed on her chest and the upper part of her back and shoulders. We often don’t think about this when we are out walking around the city with friends. Sunscreen those areas. Don’t forget those bare arms and legs!

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American Eagle AEO SOLID PANAMA HAT under 20.00. Hats are SO in right now and they are so darn cute. Use this fashion trend to your advantage and never let it go out of style!

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This beach cover up from Nordstrom provides decent shoulder and back coverage. Look for beach cover ups that actually cover. Click for direct link

 

Spring Chicken for the More Mature

It has been 2 years since I have wrote on this blog. Two more years of raising my boys, guiding and shaping them into young men. Two years of working on and managing my health anxiety. Two more years of marriage. Two more years of working on my career. Two years of adventures, friends, family, parties, trips, highs, a few lows. Two more years of being blessed to walk the earth and experience this thing called life.

Welcome and welcome back! I have been inspired once again to get my creative juices flowing and dedicated this blog to all things I love and want to share. I love a good blog and recently have enjoyed some really good content on youtube. Hats off to the video bloggers!

I am not a spring chicken although I do feel like one. Content for more mature ladies …I am talking fabulous forties is quite limited in the blogging world.  But here I am 45 feeling like I am 25, I make no apologies for that. You may have heard how liberating your 40’s can be and it is all true, I promise to write more about that later.

I won’t follow any rules, especially when it comes to fashion, make up and behaviour and you shouldn’t either. This is shocking even for myself since I am such a rule follower mostly in life. Except if you tell me I can’t do something ..then I take on the challenge.. to prove I can.

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Daily Prompt: Ghost

via Daily Prompt: Ghost

I am not sure what my thoughts on “real life” ghosts actually are. I would say I am more on the skeptic side. I’d like to think I have a guardian angel but that wouldn’t be a ghost it would be an angel. I believe in angels.

Now, I wouldn’t mind being a ghost when it served me well.  Like the days I need to get groceries and the last thing I want to do is dress and shower. (I am not a wear your PJ’s to the store kind of girl). I could ghost into the grocery store get what I needed and ghost out.

Ghosting would also come in handy when you want to see what your 16 year old and his girlfriend are up to. Well, maybe…… but I would like to know what they talk about for hours.

My friend ghosts all the time. We are sitting around the campfire, talking, laughing, having a few beers and suddenly there is an empty chair. No, “hey everyone, good night I am off to bed.” Nope, he is there then he is gone and we are left with an empty chair.

When I pass from this life and on to the next, I don’t plan to stick around being a ghost. I am going to take my place in the glorious heavens. I don’t plan to have any unfinished business that keeps me between places in a spiritual world. If there are ghosts flying around I would think they have unfinished business and can’t pass or don’t want to pass into the land of milk and honey.

I don’t think I ever cried as hard at a movie as I did watching Ghost with Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze the first time. It was heart breaking. I bawled.

Ghosts can inhabit you right here, right now;  ghosts from pass mistakes, past trauma, past relationships, unfilled dreams, regrets. I work really hard at not allowing ghosts to inhabit me despite some of life’s challenges I have had. It takes a lot of work, a lot of persistence, a lot of patience, forgiveness, letting go and not living with what if.

BOO!!! Did I scare you?

 

As seen on Pinterest: Teacup Bird Feeder

I had to clean out some dead branches from an area in my yard. The tops of the trees are beautiful and provide lots of privacy but the bottoms of the trees had lots of dead branches. I often noticed little birds hanging out in the trees. I thought these teacup bird feeders would be a great way to add to the empty space and bring more of those lovely little birds to the trees.  I have a few more plans for this space as it leads to a pathway of wild blackberry bushes.

 

I purchased all the cups and saucers from a thrift shop. I also found beads and ribbons to use for hangers. The glue I picked up at a hardware store. I selected glue that was waterproof.  A glue gun would work as well.

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