Lessons Learned About Marriage

IMG_6417This month my husband and I celebrated our 20th Wedding Anniversary. Here is what I have learned over the last 20 years.

*Dont ever call each other names that are hurtful or say something to the other person with the intention to hurt them.

*Be respectful of each other at all times. Just because he/she is there doesn’t mean you take it out on them.

*Don’t go to bed angry. You need to talk it out. Even if it means staying up all night.

*Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want and teach him/her how to treat you the right way.

*Call each other out. It doesn’t need to turn into a big fight. Some times it is just a WFT look?

*Get to know each other really well. But i do draw the line at one brushing teeth and one on the toilet at the same time. NOPE can’t go there.

*Be at complete ease with each other.

*Share  similar values on family, parenting, finances and dreams for the future.

*Have a core group of friends.

*Laugh together and at yourself and at him too. Humour can defuse a situation and help you see how insignificant an argument maybe. Cracking up together is great intimacy.

*Never lie to each other, even by omission.

*Celebrate birthday’s, holidays and anniversaries.

*Take care of yourself for you, when you feel good about yourself you can be more confident in your relationship.

*Know you could walk out tomorrow and be completely financially independent. ( But yet you choose to stay)

*You will day dream about walking out and hopping on an airplane to take you far away. You will plan the journey. ( But yet you stay)

*There will be ups and downs and more ups and downs and ups and downs. Ride them even when you don’t think you can for one more minute.

*He takes care of his family issues, you take care of yours.

*Live by this “What God has joined let no man separate”

*Love each other none is perfect including you.

Deal Breakers 

Abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, emotional)

An affair ( I just don’t think I could get over it and therefore it wouldn’t be fair to him)

I will be back!

Summer is coming to an end and I am very busy getting ready to start my new job. How I miss writing post. I am going to be on break until I have the school year up and running. I have some exciting things happening this Fall and can’t wait to write about them.

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