*Dont ever call each other names that are hurtful or say something to the other person with the intention to hurt them.
*Be respectful of each other at all times. Just because he/she is there doesn’t mean you take it out on them.
*Don’t go to bed angry. You need to talk it out. Even if it means staying up all night.
*Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want and teach him/her how to treat you the right way.
*Call each other out. It doesn’t need to turn into a big fight. Some times it is just a WFT look?
*Get to know each other really well. But i do draw the line at one brushing teeth and one on the toilet at the same time. NOPE can’t go there.
*Be at complete ease with each other.
*Share similar values on family, parenting, finances and dreams for the future.
*Have a core group of friends.
*Laugh together and at yourself and at him too. Humour can defuse a situation and help you see how insignificant an argument maybe. Cracking up together is great intimacy.
*Never lie to each other, even by omission.
*Celebrate birthday’s, holidays and anniversaries.
*Take care of yourself for you, when you feel good about yourself you can be more confident in your relationship.
*Know you could walk out tomorrow and be completely financially independent. ( But yet you choose to stay)
*You will day dream about walking out and hopping on an airplane to take you far away. You will plan the journey. ( But yet you stay)
*There will be ups and downs and more ups and downs and ups and downs. Ride them even when you don’t think you can for one more minute.
*He takes care of his family issues, you take care of yours.
*Live by this “What God has joined let no man separate”
*Love each other none is perfect including you.
Abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, emotional)
An affair ( I just don’t think I could get over it and therefore it wouldn’t be fair to him)