Body Positivity Movement

I am joining the body positivity movement. I am optimistic that I can embrace the positivity. I am not getting any younger or thinner and starving myself is out of the question. I know very little about body positivity. I have been hating my body for pretty much all my life but mostly since I was about 25, so that is almost 20 years of hating my body and putting all myself worth into how flat my stomach is or is not, which it is not flat by any means. I have an arm load of reasons I am not getting skinny and why my muffin top is not shrinking. I loath my muffin top and now I am adding my upper arms to what I hate about my body. Okay, back fat too, I hate that as well, but see it less often since  it is behind me. See where this is going?

Here is my arm load of reasons (some may call excuses) why I am not getting skinny

  1. hyperthyroid
  2. menopause at 3o
  3. whacked out hormones
  4. IBS diet
  5. diets don’t work, I have done lots ( WW, clean eating, no carbs, reduced carbs, paleo, LA weight loss and the list continues, I have lost and gained the same 15 lbs I don’t know what many times)
  6. I have overcome too much shit in my life to never have ice-cream and birthday cake again
  7. I have many habits of “skinny” eaters and I still have a muffin top

 

I am sure there are a few more, if I want to spend the brain power thinking about them and no …..one of the reasons is not because I am lazy, unhealthy, unmotivated and overweight and making excuses.

Enter….. body positivity which to my understanding will help me blast these some of these myths and misconceptions  and once and for all I will love my body and appreciate all the does for me. Let the journey begin.

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I Don’t Make New Year Resolutions Volume 2

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I don’t make specific New Year resolutions because I know you can’t keep them just as I know diets don’t work. With every loss cell of collagen as you get older you actually do get wiser. Cost, benefit relationship.

As the kids get older the parenting gets less  intense, less hands on. They get more expensive, I wasn’t quite expecting that. They don’t need me like they use to. That brings about some sadness but at the same time I enjoy their independence. They need to be independent, honestly, before you know it they will be flying the coop. They need to know how to survive. I need to call off the helicopter and active the GSP. I will be broken hearted. Which is why I also must prepare and begin working on my life after kids. Saying that, I so wish I could freeze time. We are all at the perfect age. They need me but not too much, they are great to travel with, they can be left alone for periods of time, they are still young ducklings, not too grown up yet but able to make themselves a sandwich and not starve.

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So, why and I talking about my boys in this “I don’t make new year’s resolution post? ”

Because I want to freeze time. I have had an amazing year. I feel that despite the challenges I have, I have pushed through, maybe this year the pushes were less or the door wasn’t always as heavy. I just know that I am happy most of the time and I  am not afraid all of the time.

Aside from jetting off to live in some tropical destination to pursue my dreams of acting and singing. Splitting my time between living off the grid and in the penthouse in Las Vegas. Being happy most of the time and not afraid all the time is good enough. I will take it! Good enough is great. I did the hard work and the past year feels like a reward.

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Since I am not Elsa, from Frozen and I can not freeze time, only my fingers on the steering wheel. I know this year is coming to an end on the calendar. My boys will keep growing which makes me sad but I am excited about the adventures we will all have as a family.

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So once again for 2016 I declare…….

I declare I will be free from anxiety and fear.

I declare I will be an active mother to my children.

I declare I will raise Godly sons filled with love, kindness, gifts and talents.

I declare I will have a loving, vulnerable, fun marriage with my husband.

I declare I will have a happy, comfortable home that brings joy and peace to my family and friends.

I declare I will make a difference in the lives of children, leading them to their gifts and talents. Showing them that they can move above and beyond their circumstances.

I declare I will travel to new places and experience the world and activities that God has created for us to enjoy here on earth.

I declare longevity for my life.

I declare perfect divine health, free from all sickness, illness, infirmities, cancers for me and my family.

I declare I will have a true kindred spirit best friend.

I declare I will use my voice in song to bring others in the presence of God.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

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Hidden Talents….Man, they are hiding really good.

Do you ever wish you could do somethings just a bit better? I understand that none can be really good at everything but just a little better at somethings would be helpful. Are you following me?

Here are some examples….

I wish I was better at make-up application. Okay, I wish I could do it like the pros. Why can’t I get that dewy, I look 10 years younger look?

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I wish I was better at cooking.  I can cook and it taste good but I really don’t like it. Maybe I should rephrase. I wish I enjoyed cooking. I wonder what it is like to actually enjoy the cooking process. How wonderful would it be to get home from work and be excited about cooking a meal? Actually excited about it, instead of dread and hiding from the kitchen.

I wish I could decorate an amazing cupcake. I don’t need to be able to do the whole cake just one little amazing cupcake.

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Fashion. I have in my head what I want to look like I just have no idea how to do it. I mean I really have no idea. Zero, zip, none.

Painting. I envy people that can paint. Not so much draw but dip the brush and go to town on the canvas. People are incredible who have  this talent.

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Sing. I can sing and if I train my voice on a constant basis I can sound pretty good but someone always sound better, has more talent. God I hate those people.

Sewing. Again people that can sew are amazing. Make a quilt or sew a dress and I am in awe. I have made a few things in my day,  curtains and one skirt. I can hem pants, most times.

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Sure  I have talents, well….maybe not, definitely not around the arts. Honestly, what happened? For goodness sakes people put your children in some art classes.

 

Lessons Learned About Marriage

IMG_6417This month my husband and I celebrated our 20th Wedding Anniversary. Here is what I have learned over the last 20 years.

*Dont ever call each other names that are hurtful or say something to the other person with the intention to hurt them.

*Be respectful of each other at all times. Just because he/she is there doesn’t mean you take it out on them.

*Don’t go to bed angry. You need to talk it out. Even if it means staying up all night.

*Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want and teach him/her how to treat you the right way.

*Call each other out. It doesn’t need to turn into a big fight. Some times it is just a WFT look?

*Get to know each other really well. But i do draw the line at one brushing teeth and one on the toilet at the same time. NOPE can’t go there.

*Be at complete ease with each other.

*Share  similar values on family, parenting, finances and dreams for the future.

*Have a core group of friends.

*Laugh together and at yourself and at him too. Humour can defuse a situation and help you see how insignificant an argument maybe. Cracking up together is great intimacy.

*Never lie to each other, even by omission.

*Celebrate birthday’s, holidays and anniversaries.

*Take care of yourself for you, when you feel good about yourself you can be more confident in your relationship.

*Know you could walk out tomorrow and be completely financially independent. ( But yet you choose to stay)

*You will day dream about walking out and hopping on an airplane to take you far away. You will plan the journey. ( But yet you stay)

*There will be ups and downs and more ups and downs and ups and downs. Ride them even when you don’t think you can for one more minute.

*He takes care of his family issues, you take care of yours.

*Live by this “What God has joined let no man separate”

*Love each other none is perfect including you.

Deal Breakers 

Abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, emotional)

An affair ( I just don’t think I could get over it and therefore it wouldn’t be fair to him)

As seen on Pinterest

I am starting a new series called As seen on Pinterest. You know how it is. We spend a few hours on Pinterest pinning all these great wonderful ideas that we are never going to do, make, use, create.  Sure we have great intentions. I know I do. But very few projects, meals etc.. do I actually do. So here is my chance to Do

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Have you seen this one and thought “so cheap” and “so easy”  but  yet all  your earring are still all over your make up table and night end table. That was me until TODAY!

Found these two ice cube trays with tops! for $1.50 at the grocery store.

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It took all of 10 minutes to wash these out and put my jewellery in.

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The only question I have is why didn’t I do this much sooner?

March Goals….In like a Lion out Like a Lamb

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Welcome March

I am so happy you have arrived.

March is like the turning point to a miserable Winter and it brings you hope that Winter will end and Spring will arrive. Spring might not arrive until June but it will arrive. In 8 days we welcome Daylight Savings and we will leap forward an hour to more sunshine and longer days. Bring it on

March Goals

1. Change up winter decor to spring/easter Yes

2. Get more walks outside No, the weather has just been to miserable

3. Plant lavender seeds No, I still have not done this

4. Clean out fridge ( did i just commit to that UGGG) sort of but it needs a really good clean

5. Exercise while watching Bold and the Beautiful nope

6. Clean out mail basket ( another task I avoid) nope, didn’t do this either

7. Get pedicure nope, but still in desperate need

8. Have a great Spring Break YES!!! This did happen 3 great nights at the beach

9. Renos, renos, and renos Yes, and this is what has been taking up all my time this month, so I will give myself a break for not accomplishing many of my goals.  

10. Do a 5 minute closet purge.

February Goal Recap

I have 15 modules in each of my courses. I hope to complete 5 of the modules by the end of February. I have decided to not continue with this course but will proceed with another master degree instead.
Add an additional protein each day to my diet. I did improve in this and would say accomplished
Increase my steps to 7000 2 days per week. Yes!
Host a birthday celebration for my husbands birthday. check
Valentine’s Gifts for Hubs and my kiddos check
Buy 2-3 pairs of new pants ( pant shopping is not a great experience for me and I really need some new ones) check but carry forward to March
Re-arrange a few items in my kitchen cupboards. check
Plant some some new seeds my Let Love Grow Project seems to have failed. check
Go to yoga Yes!
Get a pedicure, it’s winter but it is so long over due. No 😦 The weather has been horrible, terrible, very bad weather.

February Goals

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I never thought before to make small monthly goals. This might be a great solution to my procrastination. Since this is my first monthly goal list I will try to keep it simple and manageable.

  1. I have 15 modules in each of my courses. I hope to complete 5 of the modules by the end of February. I have decided to not continue with this course but will proceed with another master degree instead.
  2. Add an additional protein each day to my diet.  I did improve in this and would say accomplished
  3. Increase my steps to 7000 2 days per week.  Yes! 
  4. Host a birthday celebration for my husbands birthday. check
  5. Valentine’s Gifts for Hubs and my kiddos check
  6. Buy 2-3 pairs of new pants ( pant shopping is not a great experience for me and I really need some new ones) check but carry forward to March 
  7. Re-arrange a few items in my kitchen cupboards. check
  8. Plant some some new seeds my Let Love Grow Project seems to have failed. check
  9. Go to yoga Yes!
  10. Get a pedicure, it’s winter but it is so long over due. No 😦 The weather has been horrible, terrible, very bad weather. 

Alright, here we go February.